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5 Benefits of Seeking Therapy During & After Your Divorce

The process of divorce isn’t easy. In the throes of it, you may feel overwhelmed and wonder if you’ll ever be okay again. While divorce might be the best decision for you and your spouse, you’ll need to take extra care when it comes to your mental, physical and emotional wellbeing. Don’t struggle through these times alone—gain support through therapy.

5 Benefits of Therapy During & After the Divorce

1. Gain Emotional Support

During your divorce, you may experience a wide range of emotions, from anger to sadness. Although completely normal, it’s easy to get bogged down. A therapist or counselor can help you better understand and work through those emotions.

For example, your therapist may teach you coping mechanisms such as stress reduction techniques. With emotional support, you’ll be better prepared to handle the process of divorce and the months to follow.

2. Talk Through Your Anger

Anger is a completely valid response to divorce. When left unaddressed, however, it has the potential to affect you and your family well after the divorce is complete. 

Anger can keep you from being an effective co-parent to your children. It can also cause you to say things you can’t take back. A therapist will help you work through that anger by communicating and processing.

3. Learn How to Communicate Effectively

Communication will be critical during your divorce, especially if you and your spouse are going through mediation. You’ll also need to understand how to communicate effectively when co-parenting your children. 

A counselor can give you tips and insights on how you can make communication simpler. They can also teach you how to best respond to disagreements between you and your ex.

4. Discover How to Move Forward

Moving forward after your divorce will take time. Your therapist will help you work through the residual anger or sadness you may feel for the weeks and months to come. They can also help you work through job changes, parenting challenges and other moments that may occur to support you through life after divorce.

5. Learn How to Better Support Your Children

Your children deserve a strong support system, too. Your counselor can help you learn how to better support your children through the emotions they’ll experience during and after the divorce.

Struggling With the Thought of Divorce? Give Us a Call.

We know that divorce is an emotional and stressful process. You don’t have to go through it alone. We’re here to support you! To learn more about divorce or to speak with a Texas divorce attorney, call our Ft. Worth office at 817-755-1852 or send us a message.

Overcoming Common Co-Parenting Issues After a Divorce

Divorce is an emotional and confusing time for your children. After your divorce, effective co-parenting is critical for their wellbeing. You and your ex-spouse will need to use patience and problem-solving to ensure you’re able to work together.

Common Co-Parenting Issues & How to Overcome Them

There’s bound to be some growing pains while you and your ex-spouse figure out what life looks like after divorce. After all, you’ll both need to coordinate schedules and make decisions regarding your children. This is where some of the most common co-parenting issues arise.

1. Negative Talk

Divorce is stressful, which often results in anger and heightened emotion. Some parents may be shocked to hear their child relay that their ex-spouse has been speaking negatively about them when they’re not around.

This type of behavior confuses your child and may leave them to feel at-fault. They may also feel the need to choose between their parents.

It’s important to keep the issues you have with your ex between the two of you. Don’t use your children as a buffer or expect them to relay messages on your behalf.

2. Schedule Changes

Two different schedules will need to entwine to meet the needs of your children. And when changes occur, it could result in less parenting time and frustration. It’s best to communicate schedule changes with your ex-spouse as far in advance as possible.

For example, if you wish to take your child on an extended vacation, discuss it with your ex first. If your work schedule changes, tell your ex as soon as possible. You can then work together to come up with a plan.

Some changes, such as work schedule changes, may necessitate a custody modification. Reach out to your attorney if you feel your custody or parenting plan needs to change.

3. Lack of Cooperation

Unfortunately, some couples find it difficult to co-parent. One ex-spouse may be completely uncooperative when it comes to communication and the parenting plan. If this is the case for you, it’s important to remember that you can’t control your ex’s actions—you can only control your own.

Disagreements will happen, especially at first. You should expect to work through them together by communicating and sharing your concerns. If your ex refuses to co-parent, we recommend reaching out to an attorney for help.

Call Schneider Law Firm, P.C. in Ft. Worth Today

The attorneys at Schneider Law Firm, P.C. have years of experience supporting clients going through divorce and co-parenting. To learn more about effective co-parenting or for support with custody modifications, give our Ft. Worth office a call at 817-755-1852 or send us a message.

What Is an Ad Litem?

When child custody matters become complex, the court sometimes appoints a professional called an ad litem to protect the interests of that child. Although they’re most commonly appointed in cases involving children, ad litems also represent adults who cannot represent themselves due to physical, mental or behavioral health issues.

Ad litems can also be appointed to represent missing or unknown parties who should have representation in a legal matter where they cannot be physically present. If your case involves complex matters—such as allegations of child abuse or neglect—here’s what you should know.

The Types of Ad Litems

There are three different types of ad litems. The ad litem’s duties depend on the type of ad litem and the role they are playing in your case. These include:

  • Attorney ad litems: Attorney ad litems are required to be attorneys.
  • Attorney/guardian ad litem (dual role): This person is appointed to act as both an attorney ad litem and a guardian ad litem.
  • Guardian ad litem: Guardian ad litems do not need to be attorneys, but they often are. Courts appoint them to represent the best interests of the child.
  • Amicus attorney: “Amicus” means “friend of the court”. An amicus attorney is appointed by the court to help the judge make decisions about a child’s best interests. The judge appoints the amicus attorney to help the judge be more effective. The amicus attorney does not provide legal services directly to a child.

What Are an Ad Litem’s Duties?

The Texas Family Code sets forth 27 specific duties of an ad litem. The first duty of an ad litem is to investigate to determine the best interests of the child. This can mean different things, depending on the case.

Your ad litem will likely conduct interviews with each parent. They may also interview relevant parties, including your child’s teacher and therapist.  They may also obtain copies of your child’s relevant medical records, psychological records and school records. If your child is four years old or older, the ad litem will also interview the child in a developmentally appropriate way.

The ad litem will then attend mediation related to the child and may attend relevant hearings and trials. The ad litem can testify to represent the child’s best interests effectively.

To get a full understanding of the role the ad litem is playing in your case, you’ll want to talk with an attorney.

If You Need Help With Child Custody Matters, Call an Attorney.

At the Ft. Worth office of the Schneider Law Firm, P.C., our attorneys can answer your questions about the role of an ad litem and help protect your children no matter what challenges you are experiencing. Call 817-755-1852 to talk with us about your situation.

Sources:

https://statutes.capitol.texas.gov/Docs/FA/htm/FA.107.htm

2019-2020 Houston Family Law Handbook

How Is Debt Divided in a Texas Divorce?

According to a 2018 study, the average American has more than $38,000 worth of debt. With the recent pandemic and economic challenges our country faces, experts estimate that the number has increased significantly in 2020. So, what does that mean for divorcing couples in Texas? How is debt divided, and what should you do if you and your spouse are considering divorce with debt?

How Texas Courts Divide Debt

If you and your spouse agree on how to split your debt, the judge will likely approve your agreement. However, if you can’t agree, the court will decide how to divide the debt. In Texas, courts divide property and debt using the community property method. This means that the property acquired—and the debt that accrued—during your marriage belongs to both you and your spouse.

For debt that’s considered community property, Texas law requires the court to divide the debt fairly and equitably. The only property or debt not eligible for division is separate property—property or debt that you or your spouse had before the marriage or that meets certain criteria.

Your Divorce Decree Doesn’t Affect a Creditor’s Right to Collect

You should know, however, that your Final Decree of Divorce does not affect a creditor’s right to collect a debt from you. Even if the judge orders your spouse to pay a debt that is in both your names, the creditor may still come after you for the debt if your spouse does not pay.

For example, if your car loan is in both of your names and your spouse keeps the family car, they must refinance the car loan to get your name off the debt. If your spouse is unable or unwilling to refinance the loan, and then they stop paying, you will be responsible for the debt—even though you no longer drive the car. Talk with your lawyer about how to prevent this from happening to you.

Types of Debt to Consider

Be sure to consider all of your debt when making financial decisions about your divorce. These decisions can have a serious impact on your future, so it’s important to review all the details carefully.

Most Americans have some combination of these forms of debt:

  • Credit cards
  • Student loans
  • Mortgages
  • Car loans
  • Personal loans

Dividing Debt: Paying Off Debts From Your Marriage

There’s no one-size-fits-all solution for dividing debt in a Texas divorce. Depending on your situation, you and your spouse may choose to sell the family home and vehicles in order to be free of the debts associated with them.

If you don’t, you could be responsible for debt that you cannot pay—especially as the income that supported one household must be stretched to support two. After your divorce, be sure to check your credit report and note any discrepancies. Talk to your attorney about anything that concerns you.

If You’re Worried About Marital Debt, Talk With a Lawyer

If you are considering a divorce and have debt, it’s a good idea to talk with the lawyers at the Schneider Law Firm, P.C., as soon as possible. Talking with us early in the divorce process can help protect your interests and keep your options open.

Call us at 817-799-7125 to get started. Consultations with our attorneys are confidential. We’ll talk with you about your options and help you understand what steps to take to manage debt and divorce.

5 Myths About Divorce You Shouldn’t Believe

Divorce can be a trying process. It can be especially confusing and hurtful when misinformation and myths taint your outlook on divorce. To protect your mindset, there are some myths you must stop believing now.

1. My Spouse Is At-Fault, So I’ll Walk Away With Everything

We know this is an emotional time. It’s normal to want to retaliate against someone who hurt you. Yet, in Texas, marital property belongs to both you and your spouse—no matter who’s at fault. Trust that the court will work to divide your assets equitably and fairly.

2. The Court Always Favors the Mother When Making Custody Decisions

The court will do what they feel is in the best interest of the child. In many cases, the mother has been the primary caregiver for the child, resulting in the mother being chosen for custody. Yet, the court doesn’t favor one party over the other. Instead, they’ll consider all facts before making a decision.

3. Keeping Property in My Name Will Protect It From Division

Separate property is property you acquired before the marriage. While it may be protected in divorce, you risk losing it if you commingle it with marital property. For example, if you use your inheritance to purchase your marital home, those funds are no longer separate. 

Regardless of whose name is on a title or loan, you’ll still have marital interest. It’s up to the court to decide how to divide all marital property.

4. I Need My Spouse’s Approval Before Getting a Divorce

Many years ago, the court required you to have spouse approval before getting a divorce. Now, one spouse can file for a contested divorce. There is no legal requirement stating your spouse must agree to the divorce for the court to grant it.

5. I Can Get Divorced Without the Help of an Attorney

Many DIY solutions exist in the legal industry, especially for divorce. Yet, divorces are difficult and complex situations that require a professional to best protect your interests. A divorce attorney can help you decide which steps are best for you to take and fight on your behalf.

Questions About Divorce? Let the Schneider Law Firm Team Help.

Each divorce is unique. You need the support of a professional attorney who can help protect you. To learn more about your divorce or to speak with an attorney, give our Arlington law firm a call at 817-799-7125 or send us a message.

Understanding the Different Types of Child Custody & Visitation

During a divorce with children, you and your ex-spouse must reach a custody agreement. If you and your ex cannot create an agreement on your own, the court will decide what type of child custody is best for your child, as well as any applicable visitation arrangements. 

Understanding Child Custody

There are two parts to child custody: include legal custody and physical custody. Let’s dive a bit deeper into both.

Legal Custody

Legal custody gives you the ability to make critical decisions on your child’s behalf. These decisions can include, for example, where your child will attend school and what doctor they’ll see. Legal custody can be given to one parent (sole) or both parents (joint). 

Physical Custody

Physical custody refers to where your child lives. For example, you may have sole physical custody, which means the child lives primarily with you and your ex-spouse has visitation rights. Or, you might share physical custody, which means the child lives with you part of the time and your ex-spouse part of the time. 

In some cases, custody arrangements include one parent with legal and physical custody. In other cases, both parents will share legal custody with one parent having physical custody. It all depends on what the court decides is best for your child.

What Types of Visitation Are Available?

If sole custody is included in your custody agreement, you or your ex-spouse will be awarded visitation, so that you may be with your child on a regular basis. There are two common visitation methods used frequently by the court:

  • Unsupervised visitation: In unsupervised visitation, the parent can take the child to their own home or on any outing without supervision.
  • Supervised visitation: Courts will sometimes order supervised visitation, which means the parent must visit their child while another adult is present. This adult may be someone appointed by the custodial parent or a social worker designated by the court.

Call the Team at Schneider Law Firm Today for Custody Help

Child custody can be difficult to understand on your own. If you’re considering a divorce, reach out for help. For answers to your questions or to speak with a divorce attorney today, give our Arlington law office a call at 817-799-7125 or send us a message.

A History of Divorce

Even though it may seem like it only exists in modern times, divorce is not a new phenomenon. The history of divorce is long and interesting. At the Schneider Law Firm in Fort Worth, Texas, we guide clients through the divorce process nearly every day. We’ve developed an appreciation for the legal and emotional complexities that have been intrinsic to divorce since the beginning.

Henry VIII and Catherine of Aragon: A Notable Divorce

The most celebrated divorce case in history involves the marriage of Henry VIII and Catherine of Aragon. Beginning in 1527, Henry VIII begin asking Pope Clement VII to annul his marriage to Catherine. The Pope refused to grant the annulment. Finally, in 1533, he broke with Rome and created the brand new Church of England. Under the rules of the new church, he was able to end his marriage. The end was technically an annulment, although many people talk about it as a “divorce.”

The end of this marriage with a new church did not lead to a rash of divorces and annulments in England. The Church of England turned out to be even stricter than the Catholic Church when it came to granting annulments. In Protestant England, it was relatively rare for couples to end their marriages.

The First Divorce in America

The first recorded divorce in America took place when Massachusetts was still a Colony. The records show that Denis Clarke was accused of abandoning his wife Anne Clarke for another woman. Denis and Anne had two children together, and Denis and the other woman also had two children together. When Denis refused to return to Anne, the court punished him by granting Anne a divorce.

No-Fault Divorce: The Beginning of Modern Divorce

In 1969, when Ronald Regan was governor of California, he made a political move that he later listed as a major regret. Seeking to end the long court battles and false allegations that often came with at-fault divorces, he signed into law the country’s first no-fault divorce act. The act removed the requirement that one spouse must be at fault for the end of the marriage, and it led to similar acts being signed into law in almost every other state.

In the years that followed, the divorce rate more than doubled. Divorce rates did not continue to climb exponentially, however. Divorce rates have ebbed and flowed with the times, and many societal factors continue to affect them.

If You Need Divorce Help, Call Us Today

At the Ft. Worth office of the Schneider Law Firm, P.C., our attorneys can answer your questions about the divorce process and help protect your rights no matter what challenges you are experiencing. Call 817-755-1852 to talk with us about your situation.

Sources: 

https://www.smithsonianmag.com/history/heartbreaking-history-of-divorce-180949439/

https://www.history.com/this-day-in-history/first-divorce-in-the-colonies

https://www.nationalaffairs.com/publications/detail/the-evolution-of-divorce

Who Gets to Stay in the House During a Divorce?

The family home is the most commonly divided piece of property during Texas divorces. It’s also one area of deepest concern for divorcing couples. Dividing a family home is more than just a financial question. Family homes come with many sentimental attachments, and they can be the center of family life. So, who gets to stay in the house during a divorce?

Texas Law on Division of Real Estate

Generally, Texas is a community property state. Texas law divides property acquired during the marriage equally. Each spouse contributed to the finances, so each should get an equal share. Of course, things can be complicated. When one spouse purchased the family home before the marriage, it may be treated as separate property. Or, a portion of it may be treated as separate property. 

Because you can’t divide a house in two, divorcing couples may decide that one spouse stays in the house and the other gets a greater portion of the assets. They may also decide to sell the home and split the proceeds equally, or that one spouse can stay in the home, and the other gets a portion of the equity.

Temporary Orders While a Divorce Is Pending

At the beginning of the divorce process, your lawyer may ask the court to issue a temporary order affecting things like child custody, child support and the family home. The temporary order may say that one spouse resides in the home while the divorce is pending, until the final resolution of the divorce.

Negotiation, Mediation and the Family Home in Divorce

During the divorce process, you and your spouse will have a chance to negotiate important matters like child custody. If staying in the family home is important to you, let your attorney know. Your lawyer can negotiate on your behalf to help you stay in your home.

Sometimes, couples engage in mediation to resolve their divorces. In mediation, couples can decide how to divide their assets. While a court might divide community property equally without special considerations, couples who are open to working together to make decisions about their futures can have greater control over the outcomes of their divorces.

At the Schneider Law Firm, P.C., we work to protect your interests during a divorce. For a confidential consultation, call our Fort Worth office at 817-755-1852. We can answer your questions about the division of real estate in Texas and about your family home.

Source: 

https://texaslawhelp.org/article/divorce-real-estate

How to “Get Over” a Divorce

“How to get over a divorce” is one of the most common questions that people ask Google. The answer is complicated. There’s no way that a person can “get over” divorce—the life experience personally changes a person. Yet, there are many proven ways to move forward with your life after a divorce.

Get Support From People Who Lift You Up

Don’t go through this alone. When you’ve gone through a divorce, you need support from people who can help you move forward with your life. Surrounding yourself with the right people is critical. Those people may be professionals, like a good therapist, or good friends you can connect with.

Although you might be reluctant to try it, there are also many support groups for recently divorced people. Trying out a support group might be an unexpected source of strength.

Take Time to Explore Your Interests

Divorces often take up so much energy it can feel impossible to focus on anything else—especially when children are involved. But, sometimes making time for those other things turns out to be the best way to move forward.

More than thinking about what you’ve lost, think about the opportunities you have to try new things or to return to things you once enjoyed. Divorces can mean new exercise routines, classes, travel and experiences that you otherwise would not have been able to enjoy.

Take Care of Yourself

“Self-care” is a hot topic, but it’s also important. When you’ve just gone through a divorce, know that everything doesn’t have to be normal right away. Give yourself time to grieve the loss of a significant part of your life and go easy on yourself. If you don’t eat healthy food 100% of the time, if you stay home instead of going out, if you don’t volunteer for that extra project at work, that’s all okay. Rest can give you the strength to move forward to a new phase of your life.

Think Positive

It can be easy to get caught up in negative feelings related to your divorce but try to stay positive. Thinking positively can help give you the energy and hope you need. It is possible to get over a divorce—meaning you can embrace the future and make your future something great.

Questions About Your Divorce? Contact an Attorney.

Call the Arlington office of the Schneider Law Firm, P.C., at 817-799-7125 to talk with us about your family law needs during a divorce or afterward. Our Texas divorce lawyers are here to support you and your family.

What Are the Most Common Reasons for Divorce?

Researchers have conducted many studies on divorce over the years. While studies produce differing results, there are some common themes. At the Schneider Law Firm, P.C., serving Arlington, Texas, we find that our clients commonly have experienced the following issues in their marriages.

Infidelity: Not Staying Faithful

Studies often list cheating as a leading cause of divorce. Infidelity can lead to divorce because it often represents a breach of trust that couples struggle to overcome. When infidelity occurs, it permanently shifts the dynamic in the relationship. Some marriages end right away. Other times, couples try to overcome the infidelity but find they are unable to.

Incompatibility: Differing Values and Interests

Incompatibility is a big category, and there are many different reasons that couples can be incompatible. We often talk with people who cite incompatibility as a reason for their divorces. It can happen when couples were not clear and honest with each other before entering into the marriage. It also happens when people change over time.

Incompatibility can involve differing ideas about:

  • Whether or not to have children
  • Finances, including where money is spent and keeping good financial habits
  • Faith and religion

Substance Abuse: Drinking or Drug Use

Substance abuse and divorce are inextricably intertwined. Marriages are statistically more likely to end in divorce when one or both partners drink in excess or use drugs. Often, issues span generations. Partners with substance issues commonly have grown up in homes with parents who abused substances, and those parents were more likely to be divorced. 

Growing Apart

People don’t stop changing after they get married. They continue to develop, reaching different stages and changing their viewpoints on issues. Especially when people marry young, they find that their ideas about themselves, their goals and the world change substantially.

When you change—and when your partner changes—it’s possible to realize you no longer want the same things and you and your partner would be happier if the marriage ended.

If You’re Thinking About Divorce, Talk With a Lawyer

If you are considering a divorce—no matter the reason—talk with the lawyers at the Schneider Law Firm, P.C., in Arlington at 817-799-7125. Consultations with our attorneys are confidential. We can talk with you about your options and help you understand what steps to take.

Sources: 

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4012696/