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Dirty Divorce Tricks—And Why You Shouldn’t Consider Them

Dirty Divorce Tricks—And Why You Shouldn’t Consider Them

When a spouse has blindsided you with a divorce, or when infidelity, debts, or other lies have come to light, it can be devastating. It can be so devastating that even the most reasonable people start to think about options that are prohibited under Texas divorce law.

These dirty tricks can be tempting. But they can backfire in a big way. Here are some of the most common ones and what you should know. 

Leaving Your Spouse With Nothing

Texas is a community property state. This means that all assets acquired during the marriage are to be split equally. But even so, many spouses entertain the vindictive thought of emptying the bank account, canceling the credit cards, or cleaning out the house.

However, leaving your spouse with nothing can backfire big time. Emptying a bank account can lead to an emergency hearing and long-term consequences for you that negatively affect the outcome of your divorce.

And canceling your spouse’s credit cards or emptying the house can provoke your spouse to fight. You’ll end up spending more time in court and paying much more in legal fees, which could reduce the financial resources you have available to move forward with your life.

Getting Your Spouse In Trouble

Getting your spouse in trouble may also seem tempting. You may envision revealing your spouse’s adultery to their paramour’s family. But this could lead to a long legal battle that costs you much more than your divorce ordinarily would.

You may also envision getting your spouse fired from their job or reporting them to the IRS. But dirty tactics like this can bite you. You may find yourself without  comfortable child support or an alimony payment that you otherwise would have received if your spouse was employed. You could find yourself struggling to make ends meet.

Leaving Texas With the Kids

Leaving Texas with your children  to unfairly keep them from your spouse is also against Texas law. If our family law courts learn that you intended to deprive your spouse of a relationship with the kids, your spouse could wind up with full custody, and you could find that you are the one who is deprived of valuable time with them. The dishonesty is simply too much to risk.

If You’re Tempted to Take Action, Talk With a Lawyer First

Legal counsel from an experienced attorney can save you a world of heartache. If you’re thinking about taking unfair actions against a spouse—even a liar or a cheater who really deserves it—it’s best to talk with an attorney before you act.

At Schneider Law Firm, P.C., our lawyers can help you know the long-term implications of your actions today. To talk confidentially about your options, call the Arlington, Texas, law office of the Schneider Law Firm, P.C., at 817-799-7125 or send us a message.

Telling Your Teen About the Divorce

Most parents begin a divorce with one main concern: minimizing the impact of the divorce on their children. Often, they incline to say as little as possible in hopes of shielding the child from the truth. But silence can be misinterpreted, and kids often end up with more questions and worries if a parent doesn’t discuss divorce matters.

It is much better to talk about divorce with your kids, being as open as honest as possible while still being respectful of the other parent. Here are some tips for telling your teen about the divorce.

Tell Your Teen Together

Teens are at a unique age. While they crave the independence of being with their friends, they still very much need stability. Your message should help reassure them that they’ll still have two loving parents, even if things are changing.

You and your spouse should tell your teen together, if at all possible. That way, your teen hears the same message from both of you and is surrounded by both parents during a challenging time.

Pick the “Right” Time and Place to Talk About the Divorce

There’s no one “right” place to deliver the news, but it’s important to think of your child’s best interests when deciding when and where.

Since it may take your teen a while to process the information, consider telling them on a Friday evening or just before a school break. That way, your teen will have a few days before facing the next long day of high school—with all the pop quizzes, grueling sports practices and social drama that comes with it.

Tailor Your Message to Teenagers

When you’re talking about divorce (or any important topic), tailor your message to the child’s age. For a teen, this often means focusing on how the divorce will affect them. Teens want to know things like:

● Who they’ll live with

● Whether they’ll have to move

● If they’ll have to change schools

● What arrangements will be made for family pets

● What their friends may think

● How household rules will be enforced

Talk to Your Teen & Your Lawyer

At the Schneider Law Firm, P.C., we can guide you through the divorce process and be by your side every step of the way, from the initial filings and conversations with your loved ones to the final order for divorce and beyond. To talk confidentially about your options, call our Fort Worth, Texas, law office at 817-755-1852 or send us a message.

How to Tell If Your Ex Is Hiding Assets in a Divorce

Hiding assets in a divorce is more common than you might think. While the law requires that both spouses make complete and honest financial disclosures, spouses frequently try to cover up the truth. And the consequences are serious.

If your spouse is hiding assets in a divorce, you could end up with much less than you deserve in a divorce settlement. Your entire future could be affected. Here’s how to tell if your spouse is hiding assets in a Texas divorce.

Your Spouse Is Being Overly Secretive

It’s natural for spouses to pull back and communicate less during the divorce process. In fact, things can often get very tense. When your spouse seems to be going to great lengths to keep you from financial information, it can be a sign that they are hiding assets.

Here are some actions that should raise some red flags:

● Your spouse has always handled the finances, even when you wanted to take a role in managing them

● Your spouse refuses to share key information, like bank account numbers, tax returns and retirement account balances

● You discover evidence of a bank account you were never told about

● You discover that your spouse is keeping a separate post office box

● Information or computer programs have been deleted from the family computer

You’re Suddenly Seeing Big Financial Changes

When an account that has had a steady pattern of withdrawals and deposits for years suddenly shows signs of other activity, it could be evidence that your spouse is attempting to hide assets.

Dishonest spouses often try to hide marital assets by moving them to other bank accounts, kind of like a marital-asset shell game. The transactions may be concealing something else going on, like money going into a secret bank account or paying off debts or assets that were never disclosed.

There’s a Discrepancy Between Your Spouse’s Lifestyle and Their Claims

When an ex-spouse claims that they are unable to pay alimony or child support but takes exotic vacations, it may be a sign they are hiding assets. Dishonest spouses are often caught posting about their vacations on social media or pulling up to court in brand new cars.

If you are seeing your spouse with luxury goods that are beyond their claimed budget, it’s a good time to talk with a lawyer.

Get an Attorney’s Help With Hidden Assets

If you’re suspicious that your spouse may be hiding assets, talk with an experienced lawyer as soon as possible. At the Schneider Law Firm, P.C., based in Fort Worth, Texas, we can take immediate legal action to protect your financial future.

Our experienced lawyers also work with other professionals, including investigators and accountants to help protect our clients’ assets. To talk confidentially about your options, call us at 817-755-1852 or send us a message.