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How to Cope With Divorce

No matter who filed or what the situation is, coping with divorce is a challenge. It can bring up many different emotions as your life shifts from the way it was before to the way it is now.

At the Schneider Law Firm, P.C., we often talk with our clients about how to cope with divorce. We make sure they have the tools and resources they need to stay strong and healthy during a difficult time. Here are some things you may want to consider when coping with your divorce.

Accept the Situation

Divorce can bring up many different emotions, good and bad. At times you may feel exhausted, worried, scared or even relieved. All of these emotions are okay, and there is no wrong way to feel. Just take a deep breath, acknowledge your emotions and accept how you feel.

Go easy on yourself and give yourself the freedom to function at less than an optimal level if you’re feeling poorly. It’s okay if you need to cut back on social activities, leave dirty dishes in the sink occasionally or watch an episode of your favorite TV show instead of folding the laundry. You don’t have to be perfect during your divorce, just be sure you’re taking care of yourself.

Take Care of Yourself Physically, Mentally and Emotionally

Take care of yourself physically by eating right, exercising, getting enough sleep and getting routine medical care. Avoid using cigarettes or alcohol to cope. With everything going on, you’ll need to make sure that you are supporting your body in the right ways. Being in good health physically will help give you the strength to move forward with your life as you go through the divorce process.

It’s also important to take care of yourself mentally and emotionally. That might mean hiring a therapist, reconnecting with your church or prayer group, or just taking time to explore your interests. Sign up for a class or start volunteering for a cause you feel passionate about.

Get the Support You Need During Your Divorce

You don’t have to go through this alone. Share your feelings with friends, family members and trusted counselors. Hire a legal team to keep your case on track and reach out to them when you have questions about your divorce.

At the Ft. Worth office of the Schneider Law Firm, P.C., our attorneys can represent you throughout the divorce process. We provide the support you need in the courtroom to help you and your family achieve the best possible results. Call 817-755-1852 to talk with us about your situation.

Sources:

https://www.mhanational.org/separation-and-divorce

What Do Judges Look for in Child Custody Cases?

In child custody matters, judges have a tough job. Experienced judges have heard thousands of child custody cases throughout their careers. This means:

  • They’re familiar with parents who didn’t tell the whole truth, who tried to manipulate the system or who turned to tricks to gain leverage in a divorce.
  • They’re often skeptical about what parents say.

This can make it challenging to convince them of your side of the story—especially in high-conflict cases when both parents are seeking sole custody.

It can be helpful to know what judges look for in child custody cases. Knowing how a judge looks at your case can help you give your attorney the information needed to represent you effectively in Texas courts.

The Best Interests of the Child

Generally, Texas courts use the “best interests of the child” standard when deciding child custody matters. This standard was outlined in a case called Holley v. Adams, and judges have said that it should apply in all child custody cases. The best interests of the child include the child’s basic needs, as well as emotional and mental health needs.

Are the Child’s Basic Needs Being Met?

The judge usually starts with an analysis of the child’s basic needs. The judge wants to see that the child lives in a safe home with enough food, clean clothes and regular care. They want to see proof that your child has a comfortable bed, as well as spaces for play, doing homework and eating meals.

Are the Child’s Emotional Needs Being Met?

Judges also look for a solid support network of family and friends. They’ll look for a network of extended family members who play an important role in your child’s life. They’ll also look for childhood friends and a school where your child is supported by knowledgeable professionals.

Are the Child’s Mental Health Needs Being Met?

Divorces and child custody disputes are mentally challenging—not just for parents, but for children too. You’ll want to share proof of your child’s well-being and appropriate mental-health support. This means setting appropriate boundaries without saying anything manipulative about the other parent or oversharing about the divorce.

If domestic violence has been a factor in the home, the child’s mental health needs are especially important to the judge’s decision.

Talk With Our Lawyers About Child Custody

At the Schneider Law Firm, P.C., we work to protect your relationship with your child. For a confidential consultation, call our Ft. Worth office at 817-755-1852. We can answer your questions about child custody and what a judge may consider in your unique case.

Sources:  

https://statutes.capitol.texas.gov/Docs/FA/htm/FA.153.htm#:~:text=1%2C%201999.-,Sec.,and%20access%20to%20the%20child.

https://law.justia.com/cases/texas/supreme-court/1976/b-5880-0.html

3 Signs You Are Ready for a Divorce

Divorce is a big deal and deciding to get one will change everything. But sometimes you have to let go of something that isn’t working to move forward with the happy and fulfilled life you know is possible. What are the signs that the time is right? What are the signs that you are ready for a divorce?

1. You’re Ready To Be Honest With Yourself About Your Marriage

Everyone’s marriage is different, and there are many different ways to get honest with yourself about it. That might mean admitting to yourself that things aren’t as perfect as you would have liked or that you are unhappy enough to end the marriage—that you’re ready to stop pretending that things are working.

That might also mean getting honest about your role in your marriage. You can only change your actions. So, if you continue with your marriage, how would you need to change to make things work? Are you willing to make those changes? If you’re not, you may be ready for a divorce.

2. You’re Thinking About Divorce Even When Things Are Going Well in Your Marriage

It’s normal for people to think about divorce after a major fight. A person might have a fleeting thought about ending things, and then take some time to cool down before realizing just how great the marriage is. After all, marriage is hard work and things don’t always go smoothly. But in a working marriage, the good times outweigh the bad.

In a marriage that’s not working anymore, a person might think about divorce even when things are going smoothly. If it’s family movie night and you just made popcorn and the family is laughing, and you’re still thinking about divorce, it may be a sign that you are ready.

3. You’re Willing to Take Responsibility in Your Life

If you’ve realized that you don’t need your spouse to be happy, if you are confident that your children will be okay, if you are willing to put in the work to gain financial independence, you may be ready for a divorce.

Think You May Be Ready for a Divorce? Contact an Attorney.

Deciding to divorce can be a difficult step. Call the Arlington office of the Schneider Law Firm, P.C., at 817-799-7125 to talk with us about your situation. Our Texas lawyers are here to support you and your family during the divorce process, helping you take the next step and move forward with your life.

Who Has Custody of a Child When the Parents Never Married?

When a child is born to unmarried parents, Texas law says that the mother automatically has legal and physical custody of the child. That means that she has the authority to make legal decisions about the child’s life like the healthcare the child will receive, the child’s education and religion. It also means that the child will live with her. This holds true even if the father’s name is on the birth certificate.

What Can a Father Do To Gain Child Custody?

In Texas, fathers must establish paternity if they wish to have parental rights, including legal and physical custody. There are two ways to establish paternity in Texas:

  1. Sign an Acknowledgement of Paternity (AOP). An AOP is a legal document that allows parents who aren’t married to establish legal paternity. To get started, you can call the Attorney General’s AOP Hotline at 866-255-2006 or find an AOP certified entity online.
  2. Get a DNA test. Fathers can also file a special paternity lawsuit—or Suit to Adjudicate Parentage—in court. The lawsuit will require the father to take a DNA test, and the mother and child may also be required to file one. If the mother doesn’t consent, the father may need to ask the court to order her to submit to the DNA test.

After paternity is established, child custody isn’t automatic. The court will still need to issue an Order that gives the father child custody rights. This generally also includes an Order for the father to pay child support.

Like in other child custody cases, courts consider the best interests of the child when considering child custody in a paternity lawsuit. Courts weigh things like:

  • The desires of the child
  • The emotional needs of the child
  • The parental ability of the parent seeking custody
  • Programs available to assist the parent and the children.

The court’s analysis is different depending on the age of the child and that child’s unique needs.

Talk With a Lawyer About Protecting Your Parental Rights

If you are worried about protecting your relationship with your child in Texas, it’s a good idea to talk with the lawyers at the Schneider Law Firm, P.C., as soon as possible. We focus on protecting the best interests of the child by keeping parents and children together.

Call our Arlington law firm at 817-799-7125 to get started. Consultations with our attorneys are confidential. We’ll talk with you about your options and help you understand the best course of action.

Sources:

https://www.texasattorneygeneral.gov/child-support/paternity/acknowledgement-paternity-aop